My Child Is Still Crying at Drop-Off — What Should I Do?
Starting school is an exciting milestone, but it can also be an emotional adjustment — for both children and parents. It’s not uncommon for children to cry at drop-off, especially during the first weeks of school or after a big change at home. If you’re finding yourself in this situation, here are some strategies that can help:
1. Ensure your child is well-rested
A good night’s sleep makes mornings smoother. If your child didn’t sleep well, let the teachers know so they can be extra supportive that day. Share any important changes in your child’s routine that may affect their mood.
2. Make drop-off supportive and honest
Children need reassurance and truth. Acknowledge their feelings and offer encouragement.
Avoid saying things you can’t follow through on. Telling your child “I’ll be right back” when you won’t be can break their trust and make future drop-offs harder.
3. Stick to the routine
Consistency matters. Children thrive on predictable routines, so resist the urge to linger or walk them all the way to the classroom if that isn’t the usual practice. A quick, confident goodbye helps your child feel secure.
4. Check in during the day
If you’re worried, feel free to call. Teachers are happy to give you an update on how your child is doing — and often, you’ll hear that the tears stopped soon after you left.
5. Partner with your child’s teacher
Keep open communication with your child’s teacher. At Dearcroft, our top priority is ensuring your child feels safe, happy, and supported. We will work with you to make this transition as smooth as possible. If your child needs a hug, a nap, or a walk, we’ll be there to support them and provide the emotional care they need.
6. Give it time
Every child adjusts differently. Some settle in within days, while others take a bit longer. Be patient, stay calm, and remember that this is a normal process. With time and consistency, most children grow more confident and comfortable.
7. End the day on a positive note
When you pick up your child, focus on the highlights of their day. Talk about what was fun or new, and celebrate small successes. This helps your child build a positive connection with school.
A final note for parents:
We understand how difficult it can be to see your child upset at drop-off. Please know that you’re not alone — many families go through this. With patience, trust, and open communication, your child will gain the confidence they need to enjoy their school day.
If you would like more tips, Dr. Mona, Certified Pediatrician, IBCLC, and mom of two, shares insightful information on how to help children during this time of adjustment.